Why you should stop pestering your boyfriend

Disclaimer: This post is written for you girls out there. This might work as well for you guys with your girlfriends, but please don't put words in my mouth.

First of all, I want to let you know that it took me quite some time to decide on what verb to use to complete the title "Why you should not ... your boyfriend".

At first I thought of using "why you should not constantly bug your boyfriend" but it seems a bit too ambiguous. Then I thought of using "why you should not constantly annoy your boyfriend", but it seems a bit too harsh. So I decided to use the word 'pester'. From the Google dictionary:

pester (pes-ter) [verb]: Trouble or annoy someone with frequent or persistent requests or interruptions: "she constantly pestered him with telephone calls."

There, even Google dictionary example told me that 'pester' is the perfect verb I was looking for. In this blog post, let's silently agree that 'pester' means that you keep on looking for him. A simple text message "hi what are you doing?" is not pestering. But send three text messages in a span of three hours and you stamp yourself as a pest.

With the very definition of 'pester' out of the way, here are a few reasons as to why you should not pester your boyfriend.

1. You like us from 0 to 100, but we like you from 100 to 0

I have no idea who first came up with this idea, but it's pretty much spot on. If you girls are reading this and think "but that's not fair!", please blame God for programming us this way.

"But, but then, how do I get him to keep on liking me?"

It's simple, really. Just be like yourself when you first met him. That is, play somewhat hard to get. When he texts you "Hey, what's up? :)", go finish the Gossip Girl episode you're watching before you reply. Don't do that everytime he texts though (if you do that everytime, he will think that he has less value than an episode of Gossip Girl), just a few times here and there would be good enough to keep him interested in you.

2. We like challenge

As much as boys hate play-hard-to-get girls, we hate oh-you're-so-easy to get girls as well. In fact, although some of us say we really hate those girls who play hard to get, we hate those girls who are too easy to get more. Really.

If you have recently been the one starting up the conversation with your boyfriend, avoid picking up your cellphone and calling him. Just put your cellphone somewhere out of reach so you can stop thinking about calling/texting him first.

When you start being so easy to get, we start taking you for granted as well. Wouldn't want that now, would you?

3. We need our personal spaces

Really. We all do. Some with sports, some with music, some with movies, and some with games. When we do something and we do not ask you to do it together with us, it's probably because we need our own personal spaces. So don't pester us with texts like "why you no invite me? you no like me anymore?", it's annoying.

Or in short, if you have stopped playing hard to get when you're in a relationship, go back to play a little bit harder to get so he doesn't take you for granted. Good luck and stop pestering your boyfriend!